“Family transition and change is part of life. Priorities change whether you are experiencing the excitement of a new baby or new home, or the stress related to divorce, grief, illness, or an empty nest. Unfortunately, in all of these situations, quality time with your family can become compromised. And it is during these times that you need an advocate” -Kim Falahati, founder
• Don’t go through divorce alone. Some people withdraw from their friends and family after divorce and that leaves them with feelings of bitterness and anger. They build walls around themselves, which eventually become permanent.
• Maintain contact with your children. Although divorce puts a child through a confusing and emotional transition, don’t forget to be involved in their lives. Communicate to your kid’s teachers and volunteer with their classes. Offer to tutor or chaperone field trips. Just you being there for them is the best thing.
• Watch out for financial responsibilities. Divorce does affect your finances. This is the time to be conscious about your spending.
We understand that in the early stage of divorce one may be in shock, regardless of who actually filed for it. Having a partner walk out or being the bearer of divorce news is traumatic. Here are other tips to help you get through the early stages of a divorce transition.
• Focus on your career. When you go through a divorce, your workplace can give you a break. Let your mind focus on your job and keep your mind off worries and anxiety.
• Enjoy and take care of yourself. Keeping anger and anxiety bottled up inside can lead to cardiovascular problems and a good laugh can release them. Having a blast with your kids at an amusement park, soccer or other entertainment, is also good for bonding. Enjoying an outing is healthy. It’s all about balance.
• Take a break. It’s okay to press the pause button. Do something you enjoy. Maybe it’s going on a hike with friends or enjoying time at the lake. Find balance.
• Get professional help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You may feel stuck and don’t know where to go from here. Our founder, Kim Falahati, is a certified life coach and has a degree in Psychology. We can help you Map Your Way to the next chapter. We help you move out or into a new place and with no extra charge for the emotional help process.
• Feelings of grief are normal and expected. When a loved one passes away, please understand that it is normal to feel lost, upset, angry. Don’t be mad at yourself for having these feelings. Instead of feeling angry at yourself, tell yourself that you should “tough it out” or “man up” or “get over” this loss you are experiencing.
• Grief is a natural human emotion. It helps us cope with death. It is not something you need to hide or feel ashamed of at all.
• We can help. After you lost a loved one, it’s hard to go through their home and belongings. We can help separate items to donate and sell, keep and trash. We can also help with vendors to prep and sell the house if necessary.
• Are your parents getting ready to move to assisted living?
• Are they having a hard time getting around their home due to size or space?
• Are there too many memories they aren’t ready to part with?
• Downsizing, moving in/out, packing/unpacking. The thought of this can be daunting. Organizing can be a challenging chore. We understand that time is not always on our side. Whether you’re moving in/out or downsizing, we help make that transition more manageable.
• Home, office, or garage organization. Most people use their garage to store things that don’t have a home in the house. Unfortunately, by doing that., you lose so much space and before you know it you won’t be able to park your car in your garage
• Find motivation. We can help by motivating you to get rid of items that you haven’t gone through in years. Family Matters will also dump/donate unwanted items and furniture as well!