We are over joyed that a fresh start is upon us! This blog is going to be about what is holding us back from being the best we can be? What are you personally holding on to? What is it that is holding you back? What is it that you can’t communicate with anyone else? Two members of the Family Matters team, including the founder, share their personal obstacles.
Our founder, Kim Falahati, reflects on herself and what she struggles with, “I overthink. It seriously waste empty space in my brain. I really need to work on it!” Many people have this obstacle in their life…thinking about what we could have had, regret what we missed out on, what we could have done in our lives. It makes us forget reality and to be unfocused present day. Do you over obsess a future event OR play at least 20 different scenarios in your head? How about over analyzing a painful memory over and over again to just feel as bad as before?
Once you accept that you do it and WANT to change it, you’re headed in the right direction! Although we don’t have the cure for overthinking—believe us, we wish we did–there are ways to act upon it. Each time you worry about the future or over analyze the past, make a proactive choice: Get up, drive, walk around, write down all your ideas…taking things one at time will ease anxiety.
The assistant of the company, Alina, shared her struggles that she wants to overcome. “I stress over things I cannot control. I am a planner and I am a people pleaser. I always want everything to go smoothly, on track and on the same page. It’s a double edge sword. There’s times where I forget that I cannot control it and stress over it anyway.”
Determine what you can control. We have to accept that in some situations we can take the horse to the water but can’t make him drink it. The only thing we have FULL control of….is ourselves. You can influence people and circumstances, but you can’t force things to go your way. To have the most influence, focus on changing your behavior. When you have concerns about someone else’s choices, share your opinion, but only share it once. Don’t try to fix people who don’t want to be fixed.
“I like to fix things. At least I try to. If I see someone’s situation that is on a “detour” and not headed in the right direction, I instantly want to fix it. But I cannot. I can only fix my mistakes.”
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Vision mood boards are a self motivator. Take magazine clippings of what you gravitate towards and pin it to a cork board or onto a poster size sheet of paper. It’s a real life tangible Pinterest Board in your home office or bedroom.
Here is Kim Falahati’s vision board! They’re magazine clippings of key words that motivate her at work. She’s a self driven, dedicated and efficient business owner. Her vision board is her reminder to keep going strong and persevere!
Here is Alina’s vision board! She’s taken a different approach. This board is hung right above her desk to keep her inspired. All the images are what makes her happy. Just like her mind, these photos keep interchanging with new inspiration that comes along. That’s where having them thumb tacked to a cork board comes in handy!