Make a “You Can Do It List”: A Point System!
It is a bullet list of personal challenges, each a little more daring, made to change your view of who you are and show you what your capable of achieving.
First, take on a mini task that’s not so out of your comfort zone (Worth 1 or 2 Confidence Points) Accomplishing that will inspire you to do a riskier and rewarding challenge.
The goal is to get at least 15 Confidence Points each month. You’ll be amazed on how positive, accomplished and ready you will be to take on anything!
Rework your wardrobe. Treat yourself to a brand new you! Renew your wardrobe. New looks boost your body confidence, and you’ll feel like a movie star browsing the racks with a personal stylist.
Be Bold! Don’t be afraid to be bold and bright. Try on and buy something at the store that has a little zing to it! Something with pizzazz! Try a new hew or a new pattern! It could be a clothing or make up! (Especially lipstick!) Be bold, be brave, be you!
Collect comebacks. Practice three perfect ones to keep in your mind for the next time you need to be quick on your feet!
Thank your parents. Remind your mom and dad (and most importantly yourself) how far you’ve come by sending them a heartfelt letter about how their advice and support have helped you achieve your goals. It’s the little words of endearment that go a long way. Your level of confidence is often related to how other people when they see you as a successful adult, you’re that much closer to believing it. It’s always nice to hear. A strong foundation is everything.
Spread the joy. Shell out some positive energy each week by bringing fresh-cut flowers to an overworked friend or mowing an elderly neighbor’s lawn. Good deeds build your own self-confidence!
Trust your judgment. Go one week without asking for anyone else’s opinion on anything and follow your own instincts. You may learn you have all the answers. “Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.” Oprah Winfrey.
Forget Everyone Else. “Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.” – Baz Luhrmann
Fix it yourself. Learn to do one frustrating thing that always requires the help of your partner, handyman, or office techie, like changing a flat tire or fixing a printer paper jam. Doing it yourself, especially if it’s something you’ve been avoiding, will give you the self-assurance to take on other challenges. Also, try to do one thing everyday that scares you.
Kick a habit. Give up those cigarettes, soap operas, or snacks that have an unhealthy hold over your life. Announce your goal to everyone you know, then join a support group, see your doctor for help, or keep a journal to pinpoint what triggers your addiction. Bullet journals are the best
Live the dream. Take one small step toward making your bakery, swimwear line, interior design firm real! Design a logo on your computer and hang it over your desk, or find out how much that little storefront you’ve been eyeing would cost to rent. If you visualize a goal becoming a reality, the more likely we are to achieve it. “Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.” – Baz Luhrmann
Work the room. Networking is key! Cannot express that enough. It’s all about who you know. Attend your next networking event solo and stay until you’ve collected three people’s business cards. Three bonus points: E-mail a friendly follow-up within a week suggesting you meet for coffee to continue your conversation. Making new key connections makes you feel very official! Practice an elevator pitch before you attend so you are prepared and ready to show off your legit-ness 🙂
Take the stage. Do something that scares you. Go to a karaoke bar! Singing in front of strangers makes public speaking up a piece of cake. “Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.” – Baz Luhrmann. Put on your favorite tracks on or guilty pleasures and DANCE. Dance like nobody is watching. It will make you feel fabulous!